A quarter century 🎉

A quarter century 🎉

Saturday, 7 December 2019

Haven't posted in a while when i had promised myself to be more consistent this year. But oh well, today is my birthday, I hit 25 years old. i dunno how to feel about it, feels like last year i was entering my 20's and here i am today, half way through it. Very last year of bachelor degree then doing my masters in Brussels, if everything goes as planned! Anyway, i don't have much to say, today is a pretty chill day, it's clear and sunny outside. have a bit of uni work to dive in but tomorrow i am brunching with my closest friends to celebrate me. 

I don't want to make any promises, because i will probably not stick to them, but i am not giving up blogging, will be back from time to time, here and there to share some thought or what not. we're nearing the end of this year and this decade, i dunno how was 2019 for you, but i hope the last few days of it will be smooth and sweet to you all! 

Happy holidays, and happy born day to me! 

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Welcome back

Welcome back

Monday, 18 February 2019

hat/beanie : h&m (years ago) // crop top: thrifted // maxi skirt: thrifted

last time i was fully active on here, it was back in july. july... it means 7 months passed by since, three seasons went by, almost because lately it feels like spring is showing up uninvited earlier than usual. not that it bothers me, au contraire, but we all know, 16°C in the middle of winter are not supposed to happen just yet. but anyhow, you might ask why this sudden comeback, uh? feels like coming back every 7 months is a thing for this blog, last post was 7 months ago and the post before, the one about my birthday is 14 month old. well i am not here to explain the reasons of my long overdue absences it's just me getting busy with life and forgetting i have a blog. yet this year, i want to involve myself more into writing about things i am passionnate about and want the world to learn. if you don't already know, i now write monthly for a journal in switzerland called Le Courrier, you can check out my two first contributions here and here, sorry they're in french but one of the articles i had already wrote on my blog can be found there. so, i won't make promises because i have no clue if i will stick up to them, but i really want to get back into blogging and write about social issues that are important to be aware of. be ready to read alot about sustainable fashion, black feminism, and social injustices. next post will probably be either on my tattoos (i got a few more since july 2018) or how to start being more mindful and sustainable while clothes shopping.

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It was time for a reconciliation

It was time for a reconciliation

Monday, 2 July 2018

A letter to this body i long struggled to accept, i am 23 and finally settling healthy relationships with it. to you, dear body, thank you for nurturing my existence and keeping me alive, i owe you big time, so here is to you: 

 sometimes you encounter some setbacks and it's okay, know that they are just temporary,

keep working on this relationship, it's been almost ten long years now. you thought things

will ease down but it turned out more difficult than planned, that's okay too because today

you know why you embarked on this journey. it's not just for you, it's for everybody else

surrounding you. the healthier the relationship with yourself, the better are the ones with others.

it's a struggle, i know but believe me it's worth it. you cannot be at war with something you have

to live with forever. your body is and will forever be your only certain company, 

have a good relationship to improve this cohabitation you've been having since the very beginning. 

you are getting there, i know, i can see it, you are starting to make peace with this body. 

you've been through a rough patch but look at how you overcame it! you can do it, you will do it

it will come and settle slowly, look, it's already getting somewhere, just get comfortable with it. 

it is time for you to reconcile with your body. 

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🎉 TWENTY-THREE 🎉

🎉 TWENTY-THREE 🎉

Thursday, 7 December 2017

today marks my twenty-third year on this earth. i was born December 7th 1994 at exactly 4am sharp. i am my mums first born and only daughter. twenty-two was kind of a rollercoaster for me. so much has happened may it was good or bad, lots of happenings that opened my eyes, got me even angrier, or brought me joy. but overall twenty-two strengthened my activism, my feminist believes, the friendships that came along or were already there. twenty-three is kicking off pretty nicely and i cannot wait to see what i'll be accomplishing, what will help me grow and learn more that my previous year. to more activism, pleasure, joy and laughter this twenty-third year of life. happy bornday to me 🎉

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self care is important, so take care of yourselves...

self care is important, so take care of yourselves...

Sunday, 13 August 2017

if you haven't lived in a cave the past two days, you probably are aware of the happening in charlottesville, virginia in the united states of america. this post being about self care for my fellow POC i won't recap the happenings, do it so if you feel like to or have a the courage but i won't do it here. this post is to remind my fellow poc that self care is important, self care is what keeps us going in a world that never was thought for us, self care is healthy and we need to take care of ourselves in the midst of those terrorist and triggering events. you do not have to read the news today, switch off your devices if you need to, but do something that you like, that keeps you busy and smiling. know that you are allowed to skip those facebook posts, do not read the comment section. take a book, plug your phone and blast some music, watch some cartoons, a film, a documentary. take a piece of paper, write, draw, doodle. crafts something from scratch, bake a dish. play dress up, sort out your clothes, plan your next trip. sip some tea, eat biscuits, look away to the horizon. take a bubble bath, put on your favourite pyjamas, take care of you, sleep. you've got this. below a beautiful song of Adetola called "we need love" because sweet songs like this are full of gold.

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On the privilege of travelling.

On the privilege of travelling.

Friday, 11 August 2017

what i am wearing: sunnies - weekday // denim jacket - thrifted // hat - h&m 

long time no see... last time! i am still alive, i braided my hair and went for the bob cause it's hella lit, it's been boiling hot here in switzerland since i've come back from my interrail trip in scandinavia but thanks good we are having some days cooling off the atmosphere until the next round of heat wave forecast in two days. i am going back to paris next week, and you already know how excited i am about that because paris and i are having a serious love affair, so serious than i might go live there in about two years for my master degree. talking about master degree, i past all my exams of my first year of bachelor meaning i have less than two years of uni before getting my bachelor degree which is nuts but oh so exciting at the same time! so paris 2019 it is? oh my sounds so damn close. touching up on all that i wanted to spill the tea on a subject i knew about but never realised how i was benefiting off of it... the subject in question is privilege but particularly the privilege of travelling.

it's something i want to talk about because lately i've been reminded that my situation and social status gives me privilege to enjoy and go explore the world without worrying one bit. i have a student job since 2010, i don't earn big money with it but enough for leisure activities such as outings, one day roadtrips, travels and stuff. i first got this job because my parents have always told me that it's important to be independent financially also it was at a time i was reaching an age which allowed me to go out, and being so close to my majority (i hit 18 in 2012.. yes, yes i am a 1994 baby) and then so close to start travelling parents free. this was the first of my parents' argument for me to get a job to have myself some pocket money and knowing that my parents situation is stable, never did it ever cross my mind that me having a student job was to pay or help my parents pay for my studies. not that i was ignorant, it's just that we live in a financially good situation so my parents can pay for my studies and the needs of other sibling/family with no problem. i've been working at the same place for 5 years now and most of the clients that come to my workplace don't actually know that it is a student job... some think that i am a regular cashier or that i work there part time. so when a couple of them found out i was a university student on a student job, not only have they started treating me differently and with more respect (it's no news that being a cashier can be hell, people treats you like shit thinking they're superior because they happen to have a higher rank job or whatever) but i had two of them asking me or just presuming that i was working to pay my studies or help my parents doing so and that's when i realised "OH SHIT I AM ACTUALLY WORKING FOR MY OWN AND ONLY GOOD" those two people actually reminded me that the reason i am allowed to go to paris every year so many times, the reason i can go on holidays in a foreign country, plan road trips or interrail is because i have the privilege to live a good and stable situation where my parents pay for my future and necessary needs while i go around visiting new horizons.

i had never seen this on that point of view, because  90% of my friends have student jobs and are in the same situation as mine, meaning the only reason we work is to be financially independent and having the possibilities to travel. working for some pocket money was the "norm" for me, like in my head every student on a student job where actually working for some pocket money, it never crossed my mind that there are some of them working to pay for their future... this is funny how you don't pay attention to the privilege(s) you enjoy until people point them out to you. on the privilege of travelling as a 20-something uni student.

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Bedtime love.

Bedtime love.

Thursday, 29 June 2017

my bedroom is such a special place to me that bedrooms in general are what i love the most. a bedroom can tell so much about an individual from what they read, listen to, dress, how they decor, what they like. a bedroom is someone's safe space, someone's bubble, a place not only to relax but also dream away and chase their favourite hobbies. bedrooms are so important in people's lives because they literally tell stories. some are plain, others full of posters on walls, some are colourful, others neutral, some are small, others big. if you enter my bedroom, you enter part of my world, it's spacious because i need big spaces to feel comfortable; my walls are plain as of now because i am so indecisive that i need time to agree and make sure that what i hang on them is what i want to see for a certain period of time; my bed is set on wooden pallets because i can't sleep high up and it might be my free spirited self that just loves it; part of my wardrobe is displayed on racks and just by the look of it you get a glimpse on what i like wearing. in outline bedrooms are my favourite things, i like entering them and learn a bit more about someone. bedrooms can tell some many different stories that i had to share with you some of my favourite ones that i pinned, reblogged, saved up on my computer. and today, tonight when you'll go back to your bedroom, be like Nanette L. Avery who said: 

"Before you go to bed think about what you left behind in the wake of the day…"

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bodysuitin' for warmer days

bodysuitin' for warmer days

Monday, 22 May 2017

what i'm wearing: body - h&m

temperatures are rising (we are just a month shy away from summer!) and when i have to be quite content about this fact, i am actually stressing my life out because uni, revisions & exams!!! haven't properly started revising and have my first exams next week (eeeeek, i know what the hell i am doing?!) well, just trying to hunt the stress away... knowing how i proceed it might go just fine, but you know, sstress though. anyhow, before i cloister myself in until june 20th, i thought why not post about this dope bodysuit that i am truly infatuated with? everything from the fit to the cut is what i strive for, also stripes seem to be my new thing at the moment, so that is a plus. other than that, bodys are so convenient all you need to ask yourself about is: "what bottom am i pairing it with?" which are for me other mum jeans, high waisted, shorts and sometimes skirts. for the sake of art and myself i haven't paired it with any bottom in the above pictures but know that this day i was wearing some silky plain black trousers. oh and can we talk about to low back cut? no? no biggie, just what drew me in first then convinced me to buy it. i am a sucker for everything backless, low cut, loose, tight.-fitting and just my style and warmer days offer me all of these, so hooray to summer and wish me luck for my exams.. until then, i appreciate all of you who read, i do!

p.s: btw i may look pregnant on pictures, i am not. i took these photos right after eating so belly was just full of good food!

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OITNB vibin'

OITNB vibin'

Sunday, 14 May 2017

what i'm wearing: hat - h&m // jumpsuit - thrifted // belt - thrifted

i  haven't kept on my promise on writing on my blog at least once a week... to be truly honest with you, ever since i came back from Paris, (which was an epic trip btw!), my mind is all over the place! with uni exams starting up in just a few little weeks, planning the interrail i'm having in july, work and just living in between, life is pretty hectic at the moment. so i am not promising anything as of now and will just go with the flow and how i feel like with blogging. today i felt like blogging so here you are, more so here i am in my recent magnificent self giving you some Orange Is The New Black vibe. i just saw this piece and couldn't leave the parisian thrift shop without these babes in hand. not only the orangey-red colour suits my skin tone, but we've been having a pretty shitty springtime so far and every time i wear this jumpsuit people can't stop telling me how happy my outfit makes them feel and for some reason i feel hella powerful in it as if by wearing this bright colour i could implore the sun, the heat and spring overall to come back among us for good now. 

anyway, i am rambling and going nowhere so i'll stop there and write to you some time soon! 

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my body

my body

Friday, 7 April 2017

it's getting warmer here in europe and we all know what it means.. we're going to show some skin here and there, and it can be challenging at times. i often get this question about how i manage to be this comfortable with my body, how can i roam around town braless with either a flowy top or dress or a skin tight one. well let me tell you my friends, it's been quite a journey, a tough and long journey but i am slowly but surely getting there and for nothing in the world would i go back!

i must start to tell you that i might be confident with my body, yet i still have insecurities i struggle with. as said before the road is long and tough. to start off, my chest has been probably the biggest insecurity i had! as you might have noticed, i am very flat chested, like super flat chested! for years i hated myself for not having bigger titties, i even started being angry at my mother for giving me those "small boobs" genes (small breasts are running in my mum side). and i am not going to lie to you, i have thought about surgery a lot! i got over it and accepted the fact that my breast was the way it was at around 17-18.. i was in college (HS for US) and discovered the pleasure and bliss of living life without having to wear a bra! ever since, i can't stop thanking my family genes for that gift, (because yes everything that has been given to me i see them as gifts).. plus i had found out about so many cool benefits of having itty bity titties that i couldn't find anything to complain about. also with my petite frame, bigger boobs would have looked weird and even horrible on me.

i wasn't nice to my body for many many years. i've had an eating disorder and it was not the funniest time ever. i've put my body through some horrible and tough diets, i exhausted it, i just wasn't kind with it. you never get over an eating disorder by clapping your fingers, it's a long road you have to be willing to take to recovery. i am now on this road, it can be hard at times to keep going straight on that road, but i owe this to my body. i owe my body so much for keeping me alive until this day, for not giving up on me when it could have, for just sticking around and proving me that i am fine the way i am. i have struggled and still struggle with my body image but i keep reminding myself that my body is the one fueling me everyday so i can keep breathing, speaking, moving and just living. to finish off i want to mention this quote that i had read one day on tumblr and stood out to me up until now:

"and i said to my body, softly, 'i want to be your friend'. 
it took a long breath and replied, 'i've been waiting my whole life for this' "

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Wild at heart

Wild at heart

Tuesday, 28 March 2017

the sun is out and so is my joy, my smile and the lust for life. spring's here and everything about the warmer weather, the blossoming trees and the people gets me excited about the upcoming days ahead. also festivals are releasing their line-up...we're definitely springtime! 

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